yeah, i guess unaffected isnt the right word. maybe not surprised, or not moved, or at least not moved much. yeah i hoped it would happen. but i am not falling from it. i still have my desire to keep working at this. as for no contact, that is still an issue. like i said, that has just started to come up in therapy. i dont chase her down or call to check up, but i do call her back when she calls. so its all steps for me. just gotta get through today.