""BTW: I soooo understand the parents expecting you to just accept him and continue to give him the benefit of the doubt and eternal love. Struggled with that for years. I think they need to be strung up by their toenails for insisting you do anything with YOUR life that relieves their guilt in the situation.""
OH MY .. do I understand the expectation that an A's parents have to think we should keep accepting the A's mistakes and to keep welcoming them back to further destroy our lives. After some pondering I have come to the conclusion that it is easier for us to take care of the A than his/her parents. They don't REALLY want to do it and so they put it on us. They know what a pain in the arse these A's are, but their unconditional love will not allow them to accept the fact that the A has to face their own consequences and dance to their own music.