Sending hugs, Florence. I wish I had anything beyond that, or beyond completely agreeing with wavygreensea on this:
Originally Posted by
wavygreensea 
BTW: I soooo understand the parents expecting you to just accept him and continue to give him the benefit of the doubt and eternal love. Struggled with that for years. I think they need to be strung up by their toenails for insisting you do anything with YOUR life that relieves their guilt in the situation.
Don't forget to take pamper yourself a bit - to recharge. I know locking the bathroom door and taking a long hot shower or taking a bubble bath went/goes a long way for me; or hiking, or drawing...
Hugs.