Originally Posted by
jacksdaughter 
Everything time I think things are going well BAMM here we go again. At 30 I don't think he needs to be yelling at his mother and I hate that I have to keep crying and being upset and worried about him yet again.
Back when, the more I focused on my daughter, the less I focused on controlling myself. Sounds kind of obvious now, but it felt like the weight of the world was lifted when I took responsibility for my own reactions. I did not have to stay on the line, when my daughter went off on me. I did not have to cry, get upset or worry about things well beyond my control.
My daughter's moods and behaviors do not dictate my mood and reactions.