I have divorced and remarried the same A. I have asked myself many times why I let him come back. One thing is that I feel sorry for him and the other is fear of starting over again and living alone for the rest of my life. I also keep hoping that one day he will decide to get help. But here lately my hope is running out, his drinking is getting worse. What I don't understand is why he blames me for his drinking binges... he tells me when he is drunk that he is not happy with me and I tell him he can leave anytime drunk or sober. The day after a binge, he is usually very remorseful and I am the best thing around. I feel like its a game to him, but one thing is I don't want to participate.... I guess I am getting tired and bored.....