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Old 09-03-2004, 06:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Lorelai
The point is, I was proud of that. I was proud that someone else depended on me so much and that I such control over everything. I was proud that I was the "good" one who solved all the problems and he was the "needy" one who couldn't function without me. This was a guarantee that he'd never leave me.
I resemble that comment.

Not only was I proud of it, I was relieved b/c I wanted the guarantee that he wouldn't leave, and I thought that's what made me a valuable partner - being such a supportive, strong wife. I never considered or realized that it was much better and much healthier to be in a relationship where two people weren't so needy and dependent on the other person...
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