I wish that the answer to that question, for me, could be answered so easily. I know fear plays a part, but I think in my situation there is so much more than that. My wife is an SA I am the codependant A. Everything I hear from everybody around me is RUN SCREAMING but yet I stay. I feel like what Splendra said was pretty close to the truth. Is this truly as good as it gets. I quess I would agree with others that say hope is what keeps them around. Hope that one day things will change, that one day things will be better, one day that we'll be able to look back and have a good laugh about all the heartache and misery that was caused. Hope? I think this was one of the better Posts I have read, because I feel like no matter why you come to this site, that this post can and will minister to us all. Thank you.
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