I stay because there is more good than bad. Now mind you I have been at this a while and when things were awful all I could see was awful and my instinct was to run. Somewhere deep down tho I knew I would be taking me with me. You see I was already divorced once from one alcoholic...what would stop me from getting together with another one? So I stayed and went to Al Anon.
After a time I got that same flash that Lorelai got..."why was he staying with me?" I had been horrible! So I stayed some more, went to Al Anon some more and worked on me some more. Someone at a meeting said that I could be married "one day at a time" and I got another flash! I didn't have to decide today and I could change my mind tomorrow if I wanted. That took the pressure of having to make a decision off. So I am still here, still married and still recovering.
So I guess I stay because, for me, the good outweighs the bad...one day at a time. If it didn't I wouldn't be here.
Hugs,
JT