Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
Lots of adult children project on their parents. and tend to fixate it all on the same sex parent. The more they project, the less they have to take responsibility for their own unhappiness. This has nothing to do with addiction and all to do with an acute lack of emotional maturity.
Flip the coin over and sometimes it's the parent who blames their own unhappiness on their unappreciative children.
I so agree with this. I know she's very emotionally immature but I always get this only when she's high or drunk, never sober. If I try to deal with it when she's sober she won't address the matter or slams the door. Then she gets high and I get the you never loved me, I'm nothing but a thorn in your side, you loved my sister more, the list is endless, and that's why I drink and do drugs, wouldn't you if you had a mother like me.