Yes to what Anna has written. I replied to one of your other posts (not sure if you read them) I said that we need to let go of what we can't fix. This is a great example. If anyone you are wanting to make amends to isn't interested in giving you that opportunity, respect them for that. Amends are not about you, nor should they be made in order to relieve you of quilt. Perhaps your amend can be represented in you leaving them alone.