Mike, I always take something away from your posts.
I think this whole process is a good sign of how my recovery is working. I did not engage or get angry or take the bait with the manipulation and mostly what I feel is relief. I can with a clear conscious put this whole relationship behind me.
This shows tremendous growth, and I'm glad you have a clear conscience. I winced when I read about the manipulation and strange behavior. It sounds like she's just not ready for long-term commitment to recovery. That's her choice.
Kudos to you for all your hard work on your own recovery because it is shining brightly!
Sending hugs of support from Kansas.