Originally Posted by
ananda 
The sponsor who says you have to mow their lawn to show you are getting "outside of self" is just as guilty of 13 stepping as the member who uses thier sobriety to get you in bed.
I agree completely. Any time a veteran member uses his or her program status to take advantage of someone more vulnerable, it is wrong--whether the advantage taken is sexual, financial, emotional, spiritual, or anything else.
This is not to say that the mere act of dating, doing business with, being friends with, or forming spiritual connections with others is wrong. Of course not. People are going to meet and form connections with each other in life. Where it crosses the line is where there is a power differential (Longtimer-Newcomer, Sponsor-Sponsee) and the person with the power uses that power to take advantage.