Hi sad! I can definitely relate to your story. I had been binge drinking for over 30 years. My husband also drinks alcoholically. I somehow convinced him to to on the wagon. That has made it so much easier. Although, the other day I tried to talk about his feelings about not drinking and he said "I haven't had a problem not drinking the past weeks, so maybe I don't have a probem". I said "You have got to be kidding me - you are in denial". I'm on day 15. This website has been a god send. It is such a reassuring feeling to know that you are not alone, that you are not unique and that there is support available. I would recommend spending as much time as you can reading and posting. I also believe that thinking you can do it plays a part.