By the way, I wasn't suggesting not to talk about the problem as a family or pretend it wasn't happening. BUT there comes a point where it becomes counter productive to continue to dwell on something that you cannot change and probably won't change to one's satisfaction. When it gets to that point instead of not seeing your mom I think it would be better to meet with her with the condition that the topic of AB is off limits if it upsets you...or her.
I know I love to see my other two and just concentrate on THEM. I feel they deserve it. I'm just thinking your mom may feel that way too.
It's all very hard for everyone in the family. Drugs just really suck big time.
I wish you and your family the best. I think a very hard hand was dealt to us all.
Hugs, Kari