"Im going to tell my family that I want us all to meet with the company of an interventionist so they can understand what theyre doing and we can have a united front on this."
Hi cc88: I hear you when you say that you've been coming for a while and are not a newbie but that you are having a bit of a crisis.
What I noticed in your thread is what I copy-and-pasted. You know that suggesting your family go see someone (anyone!) with that goal in mind (a good goal, I must say) is not going to work. You know it will probably backfire. You know they have to come out of enabling in their own time, just like you did. Just like we all did.
The morning is wiser than the evening. After you've gotten some good rest and the day is new, start pondering this whole dilemma. It might look different. Your options might look different.