Originally Posted by
Programmatic 
My experience is that the personality you fall in love with is/was a real person that got dissolved by alcohol and it is perfectly possible for that person to be found once again. The person has to want that, though, you can't want it for them and it happen on that energy alone.
I believe this too. We were presented with the best of our loved ones, and the disease took over. Having listened and talked to so many recovering addicts/alcoholics here and in AA, most find themselves again and often an even better version of themselves once in a strong recovery. The trick is deciding to wait until our loved one wants it? Or get out before we go mad ourselves?
I love my RAH deeply, but I do not like the alcoholic version of him at all.