Originally Posted by
ELt678 
Again, I appreciate the honesty and advice. I know whats gone is lost and cannot be found, but i have a huge issue in not being able to maintain my sobriety(it is sobriety) simply cuz i feel i am a bothersome and/selfish every time I try. excuses. aside from my problems, I cant forget or let go of everyone Else's. But yes, I do have bigger fish to fry. I just CAN'T not feel anything for him , and yet i believe he either wants me to leave him alone or cant make up his mind or have respect to be honest and tell me he has a problem and alot of that ails in the toxicity of he and I. ?
Elt678-
I get myself into a lot of hot water when I start listing all I can't do. I make myself crazy, and start to feel stuck, am likely to isolate, and just keep going in circles.
I do better even when I am thinking about what I can't do, being aware of and even listing what I can.
So my question/challenge for you is what can you do right now to help yourself (hint posting here is already a can in my opinion).