Hey, I wasn't named "quievering bowl of jello" for nothing. My middle name was "scared sh*tless", as other SR members can attest.
Seriously though, I faced my fear when I imagined my daughter as a grown woman, trapped in the same toxic and destructive relationship I had with my then-husband, unable to break the cycle because no one showed her how. That did it for me. I knew there was something I could do, in that moment, to change our circumstance. Yes, it would mean I would be unpopular with XAH and yes, it meant breaking my stepson's heart and leaving him behind. I made the leap anyways, with the help of SR and constant prayers to my HP...and A LOT of "to do" lists, which helped me stay focused on the steps to achieve my end goal: freedom from the madness I lived in everyday.
We're here with you. You can do this.