I got a lot of great information from the book "Under the Influence".
There are many yet's I managed to avoid, for today, but one thing in "Under the Influence" really helped me get some perspective. I had trouble relating to many of the most heart-wrenching stories I've heard, but a section of the book made some things clear:
For instance, "hitting bottom" and "functional alcoholic" are now terms I don't really use any longer. At times, in a recovery context they may seem useful, but for me, I no longer think of my drinking days as "functional alcoholism" but "middle-stage" alcoholism. I was on the verge of losing more than I had realized. And some things I had lost were not known to me (are not known to me.)
People tend to avoid problem drinkers and will not let on to the drinker that from a social point of view they are having problems. You may never know how drink has damaged reputation and standing.
On those questionnaires, one of the questions should be "Did you look for a questionnaire online to see if you're an alcoholic?"
Glad you found us. Good luck!