Elt678-
Oh goodness can I relate to this post.
I started to really work on my recovery from an eating disorder when I was your age. That was a little over 11 years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. Along the way though I also met a loved one with addiction concerns.
What I have learned is that I CANNOT be there for someone else when I am so wrapped up in my own addiction. My loved one would become part of my addiction.
This is going to sound pretty contradictory right now, but you need to take care of you.
How I did that is the following:
-tx for my eating disorder
-individual counseling for my eating disorder
-group therapy work for an eating disorder
-body work, work with a dietitian etc
-In addition to help me with my loved one and it also really helped me eating disorder I attend Al-anon. It has helped me with both my eating disorder behavior and my relationship with others.
-Reading a lot about addictions (including my own) when I was ready.
I urge you to get some health for yourself.
It can get better.