cece-
i am sorry to hear about your losses. i do not engage family or friends with this. this is the place where i unload, and therapy, but that is much slower.
i agree about the list she has, but i think i am the only one on it anymore.
here is what is fantasy thinking-
i can tell she is better than she was, but i am sure there is a lot i dont know. my guilt is that i picture her trying to stay clean and now that she has to leave the house she is in, she has all these intentions of starting over and being normal getting a job and all. i am picturing her being happy that she would be coming back and havea place to call home. my guilt is pulling out hte rug on that.