Welcome!!!
Living with an actively drinking alcoholic is its own kind of hell. With the risk of sounding like a cult member trying to get you to join, I second the "go to Al-Anon" advice.
For me, going to Al-Anon and working on my own recovery was sort of like assembling a tool box that allowed me to built a life raft that kept me afloat while I was in the marriage, and a paddle to paddle for dear life when I left... Meaning there are no easy solutions. It takes work. But the strength and knowledge you can build will serve you well, whatever choices your wife makes.
Good to have you here!!!