Originally Posted by
m1k3 
Also when I gave up the illusion of control I found that I gave up all that responsibility that I assumed that wasn't really mine to begin with. It was like having a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.
A year or so ago I was distraught over my brother and his situation. When I talked about it with my therapist, she told me that raising him and making sure his life was good was never my job to begin with. When I heard "It wasn't your job", I too felt a weight being lifted off my shoulder.
It comes back though. Recovery truly requires perseverance.
Control is an illusion, control is an illusion, control is an illusion, ...
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