What is obvious to us...is often NOT OBVIOUS to them. Guilt, defensive, AND impaired thinking from booze/drugs is a powerful combination.
In recent weeks, I have sat and just listened to what comes out of abf's mouth, and thought the same
HOW STUPID DOES HE THINK I AM??
And..later, he says, he does not remember what he said.
I believe that. I believe he has no comprehension of what he is saying, either at the time..or later.
It fries the brain.
Please, stay, keep posting, learning and finding solid information. The ONE thing that really got my attention is the sameness to many of the posts.
And.. what you have to do for yourself, to deal with your own emotions.