Since you are in MC that would be a 'safe' place to bring up the fact that not only his past treatment in the sexual department but his 'attitude' make you feel like his 'garbage can' and does not make you 'feel' 'loving' toward him at all.
It is also something he can discuss with his sponsor.
I would suspect since he is still very new in recovery that he is having 'one he!! of a time holding everything together' and really probably has no clue about the difference between 'physical' relief and a 'coming together for love' relationship in the bedroom.
I am grateful that you are seeing improvement, but please remember, like most in early recovery, he is still very fragile. I know I sure was, and most of the sponsees I have worked with in AA are also. It may be a good 6 to 9 months to a year before all the cobwebs are cleared from his brain and he actually is working on the 'wreckage of his past.'
Please keep working on you.
Love and hugs,