I struggled with this at first. I even thought I would go to meetings but not really work any steps, because I don't covet a religious God. But I'm at almost 60 days now, and my mom (who has been in the program 35+ years) told me something the other day. I was stressing about something or other (trivial I'm sure) and she said "You can plan, but you can't plan outcomes." Well that hit home with me. Just knowing that when I've done all I can do, it's out of my hands. I don't know exactly who takes care of the rest, but it's not ME. I don't have to picture Jesus, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster, etc. I just have to know that there are things I can't control. I'm ok with this!