Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I hope my words don't come off as if I think it's easy to just say "well he's in denial and I'm done".
WTBH, I totally get what you are saying! What you've shared really helps me feel not so alone.
Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy I can see how obviously in denial my own AH is and (probably bc our anniversary is approaching) yet I still am having these pangs of "but I wish things could be different". And it's insane that I think that bc he's been abusive and awful for a long time... Anyway, my point is that I for one know how hard it is to separate the "what I know" from "what I feel" and I've found it easier to manage these discrepancies by telling myself that it's okay to FEEL whatever I feel, provided I don't act on it. And being apart from AH makes it a lot easier not to act.
I had an "ah-ha" moment reading this. Separating "what I know" from "what I feel"...very good advice!! And it sure does help being apart from your AH to make it easier not to act...I'll vouch for that!