Wow. That is harsh. I have no direct experience with your situation but I know it must be really tough. I would find it a huge struggle to stay sober in a house with a partner who drinks.
I think my only advice, which is based on nothing concrete, would be to try and talk to your husband, tell him how his drinking affects you and see if you can bring him round to your way of thinking. Maybe if you were both sober for a long time you might be able to rekindle some of the feelings that you have lost for each other. Does he know you are trying to stop drinking?