TG, you are wise to give yourself time contemplate it. Being reactionary is usually costly when it comes to divorce.
My advice, for what it's worth, is to pursue what you are entitled to under the laws of your state. Nothing more, nothing less. Trying to get more in order to get revenge is tempting. Giving up what you are legally entitled to in order to avoid conflict can also be tempting. Neither will likely be best for you in the long run. That's just my two cents.
L