I didn't even realize that I could choose to leave util I hit a point where the pain of staying was worse than the pain of leaving. It was like a light bulb turning on. I went from trying to deal with the situation to I'm leaving. I was moved out 3 weeks later. That was 5 months ago. It has been scary, lonely and much, much better than it was when i was still with her. I'm not sure where I go from here but now that I have the time and breathing space to work on my recovery it doesn't matter. I know one thing though and that is I am not going back.
Your friend,