The only thing I can tell you about the family meetings in the first inpatient rehab that my son went to is where I began MY recovery. They were fantastic. They helped me break through my denial about my own issues. I will be forever grateful to the counselors, who were all recovering addicts and alcoholics. They helped more than they will ever know.
Relax. Take it one day at a time. Go with the flow. Take it easy. Those are my best suggestions for you.
gentle hugs
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