Alcoholics come in all shapes and sizes. Some are kind, honest and generous while others are a-sholes, full of b.s. and grandiosity. It simply takes time to get to know someone. First of all I wouldn't worry about getting in the way of his recovery ... that's his responsibility. I think the most important thing in a new relationship is to really listen to what the other person says. No expectations, just listen. If red flags go up, pay attention.