Instant - you have such kind words to say to all of us. I have to start looking into the 12 steps, because even though my outlook is positive, I'm still having my moments where I just want to scream. I know it can be normal, but I would love for that to go away for good. I hope it does some day!
And your wife....oh how all of us wish we could be like that. I've always felt wine is meant to be enjoyed and appreciated (I'm not a wine drinker). I know if I got into wine, I'd get into the whole bottle to find that buzz and keep it. Maybe when I'm a little old lady I will love a glass of wine and laugh about these days, and think "what the hell was I thinking?". 20 years - that's super. Many more to come.
Hugs to you!