Yeah, I got to the point too recently where I realized I would be forced to leave this all to the lawyers because I CANNOT in any way, shape or form have a normal conversation with my AH. I also tried many times to reason with him and it did nothing except make me crazy. Accept that this will cost big bucks and that you have to do it this way and just try to move forward. Divorce is hard and it's maddening that there is no alternative shortcut process when you are dealing with crazy people, but there just isn't, at least where I live.