Sigh.... yup, you're all right. I was really trying to do this inexpensively, not acrimoniously, not have to make this a knock down, drag out court battle and clearly AH is forcing it to be that way. I guess no matter how much I want to do this pleasantly/maturely/sanely, if the other party isn't willing then it's impossible.
I'm just pissed that I am going to spend thousands of dollars battling him that could have been spent on our kids and all bc he needs to be an ass.
Time to call my lawyer I guess...