veryregretful

Hi,

It's been a rough couple days.

He was at the hearing to get the restraining order extended. His mother and sister went. A 49 year old man needs his mom to go with him to court for a restraining order? WTF I think she went for the intimidation factor. It worked. My sister came with me.

He didn't see me be all nervous. I just stayed in the domestic violence office until it was our time to see the judge. The HAWC advocate stood by me in court.

I'm actually filing a formal complaint against the judge. I told him what happened and what has been happening. My STBXAH told him he is a loving father, etc.

I can't lie under oath so when the judge asked if either of us filed for divorce, I said I did. So now he knows. That's a good thing. Now its all out in the open.

The judge said 'i tell my kids I'm going to hit them all the time" so I don't think there is abuse here. Probably just an arguement.

He did extend the restraining order for 90 days. No contact to me and my two kids.

My STBXAH wanted to know about seeing the kids cuz he loves them and the judge told him to go to the probate court and file papers to get visitation on the way home.

No wonder people get murdered!!

He violated the RO once two hours after he was served and then before Court on Monday. The police officer is charging him with Threat to commit assault on Minor.

I feel so bad for my kids. I let this go on too long. My daughter is having a hard time with this. She is really scared of him.

My STBXAH didn't remember what he did Friday night. So he must be blacking out all the time. His brother told me he didn't remember. On top of the drinking I'm finding out more about drugs and cheating.

This is very hard. I thought I was doing good. Just sometimes I have these moments. Even though I don't want him back, I'm done. I kinda hoped that he would go into rehab. I guess that's the codi in me.

The kids and me are going to a domestic violence advocate on Monday. She will give us some names of domestic violence therapists that also deal with substance abuse and alcoholism. I think the kids need to talk to someone.

His mother called my son after court and told him she was sorry what was going on and that my STBXAH told her he wanted to kill himself because he has nothing to live for. Who tells a 16 year old that? I crazy woman!!!!! She is blocked from calling the kids cell phones.

This is my same kid that read my STBXAH's suicide letter that my STBXAH left on the counter last year when my STBXAH thought my son was at school.
Now my son is worried about him even more.

Today is my day to clean my bedroom of all his things. I'm just going to throw it all into a bag and put it down the basement until I can get all his other crap packed up. I look forward to MY bedroom!!

I have to go back to work. Just wanted to update you. Time will heal all our wounds..................