Bamboo,
so glad to hear that you found an Alanon meeting that you loved. The first Alanon meeting that I went to after leaving my husband was a great feeling....I was there for me and no one else. I remember those feelings of resentment when I first started going....little did I know that I was the problem - not him!
Just remember, you don't have to figure it all out right away. I think that caution is the word of the day and just take the time to figure out what is best for you.
Have a great evenening!