With regards to alcoholics and their relationship with their children: no, they don't just stop having a relationship because of the addiction, but if they do not seek recovery, their true priority will be getting their drug of choice, whatever it may be. Whether you and your AH stay together or separate, do you believe that he does everything in his power to put his child's safety and needs first?
I know you've got a lot of thinking to do, which may be stressful but is a good thing all things considered. You are being given an opportunity to define your boundaries and decide exactly how you will stand by them. About what you've told your AH about his drinking, I do hope you're aware that he may start drinking again and hide it from you. It's sad but it's rather common, mostly because it's hard to just "quit cold turkey" without a recovery program to support your efforts.
Keep reading and posting. SR is always open
