Disclaimer- there is a lot more to Sunday night than I posted and I really don't care to get into it. He isn't here, doesn't live here, hasn't tried to come back and things have been generally fine since he moved out. I didn't post this to talk about Sunday. I just was feeling upset about the words thrown at me earlier tonight and wanted to vent rather than keep it bottled up... I know words aren't supposed to hurt but they do and that's what the point of my post was.
That said I will address the issues raised by responders...
Jazzman- While I appreciate your advice, I will say this: #1. I didn't assault him, I defended myself since he was holding me and wouldn't let go and #2. I will kick him again if he ever physically touches me again. He wouldn't let go of me and I kicked him to get him to let go. #3. Our D's were hitting him to get him to let go so I think all things considered my kicking him in front of the girls was the best option.
Lateeda- I am not trying to have rational conversations with him. I realize I typed "talking about visitation" but it wasn't my attempt at a conversation... It's not worth delving into detail but our "conversation" really was a case of my telling him this is how it is (based on a prior legal agreement that he was suggesting we change on the fly) and he decided to go off bc he didn't get his way. I sat and listened to his bs and told him when he was done that he either left or I called the police to escort him. He left. I am not engaging him or trying to have a converation-- I know better.
I wish I could get to the point where his words didn't cut deep but they still do and I hate it. That's what I am bothered by...