bamboo-
I definately feel that my relationship to an addict helped me to work out stuff from my childhood....
I also put so much emphasis on what people say that I forget about the behaviors of a person. I don't sense that his behaviors are matching up with what he is saying, or if they do it is not for a very long period of time. That was really hard on me.
I attend Open AA meetings to learn about addiction, but also attend Al-Anon for healing for myself. That program in addition to therapy and codependancy work has been very healing for me.
Welcome, and I am glad you are here.