Sending you big hugs - as I truly understand. I understand wanting to be treated with dignity and respect. It seems like such a simple and easy thing to do, right? Not for an alcoholic - unfortunately.
Fortunately, your RAH is gone. You are no longer living in the chaos... and the stuff that's gone is - well, just stuff. It can be replaced! *****! And how cool for you that you can take care of your own car!?!? Girl, YOU ROCK.