Thank you hydrogirl. I am devastated. I have known this man since the 4th grade!!! We have been together (married) 19 years and dated 3 years prior to that. It saddens me he doesn't love his family enough to get help. The therapist asked him the other night, how does it feel knowing your son looks up to you as a role model? Do you want your son to emulate your behavior? He gave some stupid answer, I'm established, I'm an adult. He is constantly deflecting. His family is of no support. Never even reach out to their grandchilldren to make sure they are ok knowing their father is addicted to drugs.