HA! I understand the "how he hears it" as pity. So, I'd keep my lip zipped. But these crazy ass questions.....that are so hard to answer....it's like he's asking "what is 1 plus 1? True or false?" There's nothing, no answer, that is correct. And I KNOW he's setting me up for failure so he can use it to pick a fight and use that as a reason to drink. The 'how he hears it' gets turned around on me to "It's how you say it!" No matter how I say it....nicely, politely, angrily, robot like, prettily, begging, with sugar on top....none of it matters when he wants to drink.