"He's not hearing it as empathy, he's hearing it as pity and that pisses him off. It doesn't matter what you mean, it matters how it's heard."
Ooohh...that so hit home. I bet that's true. I'm sure that pity would **** him off like nobody's business. That also may explain why he gets irritated when I "help" with something. He may see the help as my thinking he can't do it.
"I used to need explanations, apologies, and closure. One of the biggest gifts Alanon has given me is that it has completely freed me from these needs (which I consider to be very, very self-destructive). Thank God! "
This is probably one of the biggest things I need to work on. As you can see in my above post I really, really like to have explanations.
