Thanks everyone for your response and posts. It does help to know that I am not alone. A couple of people suggested meds and while I do advocate that they are beneficial I just feel from prior experience that I should try to work things out on my for now. A member of my Al-anon group suggest a book by title of JESUS CALLING (a book of daily devotions) to me and I found my answer in it:
(just substitute Me/My with your Higher Power of choice)
October 17th:
Anxiety is a result of envisioning the future without ME. So the best defence against worry is staying in communication with ME. When you turn your thoughts toward ME, you can think much more positively.
If you must consider upcoming events, follow these rules:
1.) Do not linger in the future, because anxieties sprout up like mushrooms when you wander there.
2.) Remember the promise of My continual Presence; include me in any imagery that comes to mind. This mental discipline does not come easily because you are used to being god of your fantasies. However, the reality of My Presence with you, now and forevermore, outshines any fantasy you could have ever imagined.
-Jesus Calling by Sarah Young
This has helped me so much and brought me much comfort. I hope it helps others too!