TOTALLY! he talks as badly about himself as he does about me sometimes. it's like living with two different people. sometimes he whines about what a loser he is. or then it's about the job. or about how i eat too much. or then he flips around and says how wonderful i am and how i deserve better than him. if i ever say sorry for anything, then he says to stop saying sorry - that he is the one who should be sorry. but then other times he demands an apology when one is not appropriate. i never know who i'm getting in the span of 20 minutes - the man i love or the one i hate.