Originally Posted by
mac3911 
she says that if I don't do the 90 meetings in 90 days I am pretty much doomed to fail
That is a bunch of nonsense, such nonsense that it steams me just to read it. Your sponsor is dead wrong.
I enjoy long term abstinence. I am not an AA member anymore, but I was for many years. I never did 90 in 90. I had young kids too when I got sober, and it was impossible for me to make that many meetings. After I got sober, I sponsored dozens of women and never asked a single one of them to do any particular number of meetings. All I asked them was if they had a commitment to stay sober each day and what they were able to do each day to make that happen.
Now I'm not going to tell you that all my sponsees got sober. Not by a long shot. But I will tell you this: every single one of them who wanted to stop drinking, did so.
By the way, a little factoid I picked up: guess what fact about a person is the biggest predictor of them successfully quitting drinking?
It isn't the program they go to.
It isn't the amount of meetings they go to.
It isn't having a sponsor.
It isn't having a homegroup.
It isn't going to rehab.
It is: Being married.
Just a little reality check!