mardy06 - I was also the supportive wife once long ago. I ended up the alcoholic drinking 24/7, so I can relate.
I never thought I'd allow it to take over my life, especially after what I witnessed with my husband (now deceased). I always thought I could use willpower to control the amounts, but somewhere I crossed the line from social to alcoholic drinking. I didn't seek help the way you are, until it was almost too late. Congratulations on your wise decision! You can do this, and have your life back.