Hi mardy and welcome to the forum!
I was a nightly drinker with kids and a job, too. It's a lot of stress..... Drinking seemed to be the only break/reward I had. I know how it is to suffer through the morning only to drink again later in the day. It's a vicious cycle because we go through mini-withdrawals every day, which create the anxiety/depression that makes us want to drink more.
Things got a lot better after I got sober. They will for you, too. I'm glad you're here - this is a great place to start!