The problem with cracking no contact when you're feeling really sad and down - is that they don't have anything to offer. It's one of the things that upset me the most even when we were happy. He is filled with so much of his own pain, and numb with alcohol/drugs, that he doesn't know how to help someone else with emotion. I have been very sick before and also had to put down one of my dogs. He was emotionally vacant and too lazy to take care of me.